I love her, she loves me, but we are not in love..!!?

if you truly love eachother then be with eachother, whether your parents dont approve now doesnt matter once they see how happy you tow are together they will learn to cope. itll be hard at first but wouldnt it be worth it to be with the one you love? plus as to your general question there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone and sometimes the difference is hard to see and can get very confusing and hard if you love one but also in love with another, im not saying that has anything to do with this just saying little valuble info there for you =] i hope i helped >.<